RIDING THE WAVES

It might be considered by some, that way to deal with the daily issues associated with dementia, would be to strive to fight for the lost moments of memory or thought. This maybe a satisfactory approach for some. However, my experience to date, I say to date because it is the only day with which we have to deal. is While making sure that each day has some moments of significant action, be that physical and / or mental stimulation, I do not find it helpful or consider it wise, to start struggling with temporary lapses of memory or mood.

In the periods, like those referred to above, I find it best to ride the wave, of whatever the circumstance might be. Like all waves, they usually start small with a gradually increasing swell, then before long, break and dissipate. They can either be allowed to swamp the craft, or alternatively, if it is steered in a skillful manner, the wave will carry boat forward safely.

One is the skipper of ones own craft and the journey can be a good,  provided one uses the rough water to carry you forward rather drown you.

JSAFGA      

SPRING BRINGS NEW OPPORTUNITIES

The arrival of Spring brings new opportunities for a fresh approach to life, as well as to living. For those of us who are lucky to be fit enough to be able to enjoy the first few weeks of the new season, we can enjoy the removal of the dead Winter growth revealing new plant life. The daffodils formed flowers getting ready to open, as are the buds on many bushes and trees. All that is required now is a small amount of warm sunshine. The new growth bursting forth, may also raise our spirits. We can look forward to the commencement of the eagerly awaited colourful show. We can shake off the gloom of Winter and make another new start. A change in activities can also help give one a new outlook on life in general. A change in outlook, whatever one's state, may help one better cope with one's situation and enhance one's ability to maximise their potential to enjoy the many differing opportunities life has to offer. 

JSAFGA

RAISING OTHER'S SPIRITS CAN HELP MAINTAIN YOUR OWN

Some days are better than others, sometimes our spirit's are uplifted for a variety a of reasons. Sometimes only a relatively small occurrence can set us back. To occasionally focus on our own particular situation can be healthy, as part of a reality check. However, I find it helpful not to linger too long, on the variety of relatively minor enforced amendments to life, as a result of one's condition. As with everyone too much introspection can distract from the opportunities one still has to brighten one's own and other's days and to help lighten their burden. Our carer is the one most deserving of this support.

To be seen to be having a positive approach to life, can be uplifting to others, as well as oneself and can be a positive boost to the one shouldering the main responsibility for our care. With the resulting positivity, high spirits and the associated tendency, nowadays, for the mouth to engage before the brain, my approach is to go with the flow. Although sometimes this may result in slight alienation or cause raised eyebrows among a few, on balance, the benefits to both oneself and one's loved one, outweighs any resulting negativity from others.

To try and stay positive, is the least one can do for both ourselves and those who care for us. When the occasion arises that the negative aspects come into focus, we are better equipped to minimise their impact. We can then continue journeying on our  "good life with dementia".

JSAFGA